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The usual market of sex toys in india is helping people understand what sexual wellness and pleasure is. But a lot few people have wild kinks and fantasizes, which are much more than just the existing vanilla relationships. If you ever fantasized about dominating someone or being dominated or any other kink practices then, Voila! You might be interested in BDSM. And we at excitesmate, present you with a range of BDSM TOYS IN INDIA such as handcuffs, gag ball, BDSM whips, restraints, clamps and what not. We even curate BDSM kits consisting of best quality kinky bondage sex toys to bring your dirtiest fantasizes alive.

Let’s understand WHAT IS BDSM?

BDSM stand for bondage, dominance, submission and masochism. BDSM sex involves various acts of control, submission and dominance such as hair pulling, hand cuffing, blindfolds, spanking and role playing which are also considered as ‘light’ BDSM practices.

BDSM Categories can be explained and divided as following:

Bondage – Bondage refers to restraining your partner’s movement using tie-ups, like ropes and handcuffs to have more control over them. It can go from simple soft bondage i.e. sensational play, to serious hardware that is difficult to escape i.e. punishment.

Discipline – These are the rules which are supposed to be strictly followed during BDSM. If the authoritative person(dominant) makes any rule, the partner(submissive) is bound to followed it. If the partner disobeys, he/she is punished to maintain the discipline. The punishments range from psychological to physical punishments.

Dominance – Dominance is the authority that lies with the partner who commands and controls the scene. Person administering dominance is also known as ‘dom’. They hold the power to punish and order their partner around in the dirtiest of ways.

Submission – The partner who gives up control and shows obedience to the dominant partner, is known as a submissive(sub). A sub follows all the commands and yields to the authority of the dom.

Sadism and masochism – Sadism refers to the state when a person feels pleasure from inflicting pain and masochism refers to the state when a person feels enjoyment from receiving pain, be it physical or emotional i.e. humiliation.

The history of BDSM goes back when the art and texts of Europe showed physical pain to be an erotic stimulus. The famous kama sutra written in India described six places to strike a person with passion, it also has chapters named “scratching” and “biting” which were written around 2000 years ago.

BDSM has risen from being called a mental disorder to embracing diverse sexual practices. And so is the retail market of BDSM toys online is helping in normalizing BDSM practices.

PRINCIPLES OF BDSM

Consent – Consent means agreeing upon or displaying willingness about what is going to happen and its potential risks. Make sure your partner gives enthusiastic consent and clear boundaries are laid after proper communication. A consent can be a formal written agreement or more like a casual verbal agreement about the fantasizes, desires and their limit.

Communication – There should be a proper and clear conversation between partners about their desires and its potential risks before trying them on bed, as it could even be unpleasant or even traumatic for the other one, if not discussed before. Forming certain rules and ensuring the comfort of both the parties before and during the activity is a must.

Safe words – BDSM could go very intense, so it is important to form some safe words and gestures, for when to stop any part or the sex altogether. It could build trust between them. This gives the sub a little control over the scene. Commonly used safe words include red (or traffic light system), peach, banana etc.

Stay sober – It is recommended not to engage in kinky stuff after drinking. Try to stay sober to understand and know when you’ve reached your limit. Dull senses could make this difficult. Allow yourself to unleash your desires and to be fully present for your partner’s kinks.

WHY TRY BDSM?

• Power is an integral part of sexual dynamics. According to studies, 50% of both men and women have fantasized about being tied up, 65% of women and more than 50% of men have fantasized about being dominated and almost 25% women and more than 50% men fantasize about spanking for pleasure. This is a lot of people thinking about some kinky stuff hence, BDSM creates a safe and controlled space for one to explore these kinks. In addition to both sex toys for men and sex toys for women there’s a new favourite category of both that is BDSM.
• BDSM has lower the levels of benevolent sexism, rape and victim blaming according to many researches.
• Including in sexual activities, has scientific proofs of reducing stress and activity in prefrontal cortex.
• A chemical cocktail of hormones like dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin and other hormones happen to people who engage In BDSM sex.
• BDSM practices challenges stigma and open doors for exploring diversity is sex.
• Tapping into the dark desires of a partner after communicating with them could lead to increased sexual satisfaction for both.

There’s a wide variety of BDSM toys available, based on how far you want to push limits.

TYPES OF BDSM TOYS

Handcuffs/ Ankle cuffs – Restraints used to bind wrists, to restrict the movement of the submissive partner could be an act of playful teasing or even punishment. They are available in padded or metal variety. Ankle cuffs resemble hand cuffs.

Blindfolds – Covering one sense organ of submissive partner could maximize a sensual experience as the others might get stronger.

Gag – Gags are devices that are placed in mouth to impede speech. They heighten the submissive’s sense of powerlessness as they consensually give up their ability to verbally communicate.

Collars – Signifying ownerships, collars are a dynamic BDSM tool as they also restrict breathing and movement.

Paddle and whips – Flat implements used for spanking and teasing. While paddles are easy to use and transport, whips are the hardest toy to learn how to use correctly.

Nipple clamps – Nipples are super sensory due to the multiple nerve endings there. Nipple clamps are devices which pinch and push the nipples to increase pleasurably painful sensations such as pulling, squeezing or tugging.

Chastity cage – One of the best toys with a fun twist to play with pleasure. It operates around the idea of denying stimulation to the penis, and this level of control can be a huge turn-on.

Anal Hooks – Used during BDSM, anal hooks put the wearer in a submissive position. They are curved metal rods, usually in the shape of J, resembling a fish hook. At one end it has a ring and on the other, there is a ball. They are made up of inflexible material like stainless steel.

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ROLEPLAYING AND BDSM- BDSM KITS FOR KINKY SEX

“Roleplaying” as the name suggests involves people “acting” a scene or a fantasy by pretending to be someone else. It mostly involves one person as dominant and another as submissive. Roleplaying might even involve scripts, costumes and equipment related to the theme.

Common themes of BDSM roleplay includes: doctor and patient, owner and pet, teacher student, boss employee, etc.

There are even BDSM kits curated of a set of playful things which are used to enhance BDSM activities and roleplays.

A usual BDSM kit will include restraints, gags and blindfolds, leashes and collars, clamps and blindfolds.

TIPS FOR PRACTICING BDSM

• Do your research and look for what sparks your curiosity.
• Start slow and gentle with the BDSM toy. Communicate and understand what is comforting and what is not.
• Practice safe words so no harm comes to your partner, when things go intense.
• Relax and embrace if you like the feeling of it.
• Share your experience to get guidance to learn more about BDSM play and communicate with your partner before, during and after.
• Aftercare is the most important step as BDSM practices can bring out significant feelings for many people. Ask your partner if they want to be cuddled or may want anything.
• Pay attention to the instructions mentioned on the manual of your sex toy to maintain its hygiene.

TIPS FOR BUYING BDSM TOYS

Consider your experience in BDSM- It’s better to use beginner-friendly soft BDSM equipment. You must also consider your experience before administering these toys.

Decide your budget – Decide a budget around which you want the product. It will depend on your fantasizes and preferences of your partner though. Yet you should do your research and then buy any product.

Materials used – Make sure the materials used in the product you decide to buy, is made from body-safe materials, such as high-grade leather, silicone or stainless steel.

BUY BDSM TOYS ONLINE INDIA – AT EXCITESMATE

BDSM is not just playing and teasing around with toys. Anything that involves commands, power and control is known as the dominant side and the one receiving the commands is the submissive. BDSM helps people to explore their kinkier side which involves pain with pleasure and can be wild and dirty. Though BDSM is not for everyone, you can unleash your kinky side using some BDSM toys.

Excitesmate has a range of BDSM toys like blindfolds, impact play devices like whips, restraints like handcuffs and ropes, bdsm kits etc to improve your erotic encounters. We will provide you with the best quality BDSM Toys in India.

You can opt for discrete delivery option in which you package won’t have any labelling. Choose your toy from our catalogue, according to your preference and budget and elevate your pleasure by shopping BDSM toys online today from excitesmate to add variation to your sex life.